Thursday, September 24, 2009


So a few times I found chewing tobacco in Mikes jackets. He says he is holding it for his friends. Ya ok!! I guess I look like an idiot or something. So just now he says he is going in the bathroom to shower and do whatever and not to come up because he will be back down soon. Ok so I wait and after a few minutes I go up and lay on the floor by the bathroom door and look in. The way it's setup is theres enough space between the bottom of the bathroom door and floor to see whats going on if you lean your head the right way. Well I saw him pick up the cup next to him on the floor and spit into it a few times. He then stood up spit into the toilet and flushed it. I know he is hiding it somewhere in the bathroom or our closet. Our walk in closet is off of the bathroom. I can't find it though. I'm not sure if I should say something because he knows how much I hate him doing that. I didn't want to marry a smoker or someone who does any kind of tobacco product. I'm real pissed right now!

Saturday, September 12, 2009

World For Moms

World For moms is a forum for moms and moms to be. They have alot of forums such as mom to girls/boys, military wives club, freebies, pregnancy forum and many more. They also have an arcade you can play on the site. So check them out.

Weekly Wrapup

Did you do your chores today?

So did you? Some of them ya
What does your weekly chore schedule consist of, if anything? sweeping, mopping, scrubbing the bathrooms, dishes, laundry, vacuuming
Do you plan when you’ll do things, do them as you go, don’t do any chores or leave everything until the house needs to be condemned? I have to do things when my daughters sleep at night.
What is your favourite chore? Least favourite? laundry believe it or not is my favorite...doing the dishes is my least favorite.
What item makes doing chores less stress/hassle or more fun/enjoyable for you? dishwasher =)

Saturday 9

1. If everyone liked each other, what would we complain about?
I'm sure we would find something to complain about. If not about our friends then problems in life..

2. If you were most powerful person in the world, how would you use that power?
I would make sure laws were followed..I would make sure everyone obeyed me lol

3. If had exactly one year to live, what are the three things you'd want to do before you died?
I'd rob a bank and hide the money and only tell my daughters were it was..This way when I die they can have the money for themselves.

4. If you could change one thing about the world, what would that one thing be?
Mothers harming thier children.

5. If you could take one thing back, what would that one thing be?
Dating Ritchy for 5 yrs

6. If you were stuck on an island forever but had all the water, food and shelter you needed. What would be the three other things you'd bring with you?
my 2 daughters, and my laptop

7. If the internet didn't exist, would the quality of life go up or down?
up..We would have to get out and do something..The obesity rate would probably drop also

8. If a million dollars fell off a back of a truck, would you keep it?

9. What is something you said, something you stole, something you did wrong?
I honestly can say I never stole anything...I did treat someone i loved at the time like shit..I was very nasty and mean to him.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Wordless Wendsday

My daughters are too cute

Wordless Wednesday

So upset

I had a job interview today at Mcdonalds. I got the job but I have to go to a class at 4 pm today to get a food handlers card and that will cost $15. Then I have oriention at 10 am tommorow. First of all we do not have $15. Even if we did Mike doesn't get out of work until 5 so I can't get to the class at 4. Also I have no one to watch my two daughters. So there goes that job! I might as well work when they go to school..

Sunday, September 6, 2009


Think eggs, think nightmares.

Buy Your Car

There is this new site where selling and/or buying a car has never been easier. The site is only about 3 years old and is making great business so far. The link for the site is new cars. They help you chose the car that's right for you.You can even look at car reviews to see what others have said about a certain car. You can apply for car loans and get car insurance quotes on the same site as well. They also offer delivery to anywhere in the U.K. This site works with dealers and care brokers to help you get a great deal for your money. It's seems like an awesome site with alot of information and is worth looking into.

Saturday, September 5, 2009


A new paid to read site that gives you a $25 sign up bonus and $10 per email you read..

Friday, September 4, 2009


I found a site like ebay where you can sell your unwanted stuff online..Check it out

Thursday, September 3, 2009


I found this site that pays you to write reviews and your opinion on certain stuff. If you wish to make some extra money why not check it out..

Advertise with my Blog


I just saw on CNN that a 61 yr old man told this woman to shut her 2 yr old daughter up because she was crying otherwise he was going to shut her up. So the 2 yr old kept crying and the man grabbed her and slapped her in the face 4 or 5 times. He is now going to prison. Can you believe that shit? I would have killed the man.


We left NY June 25th. Mike was due to get home June 28th. t took us 2 1/2 days to drive down to Oklahoma. We get to Oklahoma an the rooms we reserved on base we couldn't check into them until 3 the next afternoon. We got into OK at 3 in the morning. So what the hell were we supposed to do until 3 the next day? We fucking slept in the car!! Me, My MIL, my SIL, and my two daughters...Danielle is 2 and Alexandra was 10 months old at the time. We slept in the car..I felt so ghetto.I honestly would not have cared so much if I didn't have kids. But I felt like a horrible mom that we had to sleep in the car. Anyways Mike came home and everything was fine. We got back to NY in one peice also. We spent 30 days in NY and then we had to leave for the drive back down to OK once again. This time he reenlisted so I will not have to drive back to NY until 2011. I wish I could stay here though. I love my house on base and it's quiet here. below from NY, and other random crap...

My husband and Danielle

Alexandra playing in the backyard

Mike and Alexandra


Military Sucks

Dear Future Military Spouse:

Congratulations! You found a good man and are actively pursuing a wedding. We’re so happy for you.
We regret to inform you that, as a future military wife, you will have to undergo a severe hazing. Unfortunately, by the time you're well immersed, it may be too late to change your mind. The military is not a bowl of peaches and cherries. As Erma Bombeck famously asked once, "If life is a bowl of cherries, what am I doing in the pits?" You will come to understand this in time.

Here, compiled by the wives, fiancées, and girlfriends at: (Military Significant Other Support website and forum) is a list of things that will not please you, and strong advice on how to deal. It is separated into sections: Military Life (general), Money, Deployment (and all that follows), and Family. It is both funny and serious, trivial and deep, every day and extreme, but most of all, it is Honest.

Military Life (In General)

1. We begin with Boot camp. Boot camp really does change almost everyone. This is not always a bad thing. Sometimes they come away with pride, integrity, and more love and appreciation for you than either of you knew he was capable of feeling. Sometimes he comes home haughty, rude, or distant. Hurt, happy, or simply looking different, these are changes that you can adapt to, or move on. We strongly suggest attempting adaptation. Find a good group of friends.
2. Troops don’t work 9-5, Monday to Friday only.
3. One day they could be working days, the next, nights.
4. Don’t bother planning a vacation. Leave-chits can and probably will be denied, depending on what kind of mood their superiors are in that day.
5. If you DO get leave approved and plan a vacation, you can rest assured that at the worst possible time, you and your husband will be pulled aside and checked in airport security, because his dress uniform (WITH metal belt buckle and nameplate) will set off the alarms. Supposedly they’re not supposed to be allowed to check military members in uniform. Someone tell them that.
6. The bathroom will now be referred to as “The Head”. Your kitchen will now be “Mess hall, or Chow.”
7. You will be dumped into a totally new town where the neighbors will be crazy, no one will know how to drive, the radio stations will suck, and you’ll spend a good part of your first month trying to figure out the cheapest place to buy food and a stiff drink.
8. His friends will not only be your friends, but if you get married and move him out of the barracks/dorms, you can probably expect one or 6 of his friends to move in too.
9. Inspections
10. Moving
11. Cleaning
12. Maintaining the yard to government standards.
13. Civilians. That's pretty much a letter in itself. They do not understand your plight, fears, or added burdens. All they know is that you're swimming in cash, toss diamonds around your living room, have no neighbor troubles at all, and that you get paid by the kid in the military. It is extremely probable that none of these will ever be true, unless by "cash" you mean debt, by "diamonds" you mean tantrums because you're on your 6th move in 7 years, by "no neighbor troubles" they mean I have my head so far up my a**.....moving on...

Civilians p.2. "Civilians will never understand, but they love telling you that you knew what you were signing up for, and/or their blind, often ignorant views about your husband's job or the war that it entails."
14. “Civilians, take note. He DOES work when not on deployment. He doesn’t just sit around in my living room eating bon bons and watching soap operas. (Oh wait – or is that me because I’m a stay-at-home-mom?)
15. Stereotypes. People will assume he's cheating on you, he cusses, and he will have a tattoo. They might be right. There's a reason for the stereotypes. This is an issue that requires you TRUST him.
16. CLASSIFIED means SECRET, which means he is not ALLOWED to tell you. It's not a choice. This is another issue that requires your TRUST. It also means you need to KNOW the rules.
17. You will have to deal sometimes with higher ups who think their poop doesn't stink, and that your husband’s petty, trivial inconveniences (you know, his wife has severe depression and can't get a doctor's appointment) don't matter.
18. Also, wives who wear their husbands' rank (this is NOT always, or even often, in some cases, officers' wives. They are human too. Most of them are wonderful people. Some of them wear their husbands' ranks, but so do some enlisted wives).
19. Free medical care: Otherwise known as waiting to take care of it until you get to a base/post with a decent hospital/medical system that accepts Tricare, so you can go back and forth between the military clinic and/or Tricare over whether it’s covered or not, then go back for referrals, prescriptions, etc.
20. Just because a ship’s doc is called, “doc” doesn’t mean he’ll give the same attention and care as a doctor in the civilian world. Chances are, he won’t give much notice at all and will slap your hubby’s back and tell him to take some ibuprofen and let him know how it is in a week. Then, when your hubby goes back the week later, he’ll tell him it’s the same thing and give him more ibuprofen!
21. Another pseudo-perk: 24 hour maintenance doesn’t always mean 24 hours. Most of the time it’s, ‘Turn off the main valve for your water and we’ll have someone there between 8am and 4 pm tomorrow’, which could very well turn into next week.
22. Forget everything the recruiter told you. Their job is NOT to make happy marriages.
23. You will get screwed again and again…and again. It’s par for the course. Don’t worry, you’re not special. It’s like a code.
24. To that effect, do not be surprised if you get so stressed you begin to hear Mimes. In fact, you may just answer the questions going through THEIR heads.
Onward and upwards:


1. The BX (Aka: PX, NEX) will probably rob you, price wise. We suggest the commissary for food and batteries and basic needs. The BX does, however, price match (to downtown stores, not the commissary), and you don't pay tax. Woot.
2. Be prepared to have your pay messed up or delayed for no reason at all.
3. If the military gives you too much money, it will be ripped out of his account faster and harder than a Brazilian wax in bikini season. If they underpay him, that money will slowly trickle into his account...sometime over the next six months to three years. And if you don't catch it, don't expect to ever see it again.
4. Companies may hesitate to hire you, because they know you’ll move.
5. Likewise, the military doesn’t care if you’re halfway through college and no credits transfer. He will move when they tell him to.
6. When you do move, most likely you’ll be in Podunkville USA and air travel will be twice as expensive, or you’ll be in Touristville USA and air travel will be twice as expensive. God help you if you want to see your stateside family while he’s stationed overseas.

That wasn’t so hard. Onto:


1. To begin with: Your husband has signed up for a chance at death. I'm sorry. Some of us like to ignore this. Some like to be prepared. Some still haven't found a way to deal. See the aforementioned website and forum.
2. Six month deployments are rarely six months.
3. Acquaint yourself with your computer….fast. It may be your best friend.
4. If you hear a schedule more than a few days before it happens, most likely it will be: A.) Longer,
B.) Longer, or
C.) Longer than you anticipated.
5. If you don’t have kids, you will more than likely end up with a dog or cat.
6. Get a dog. They don’t talk back, and can’t drive for you, but they keep you warm at night, still make messes, require you to wake up at a decent hour in the morning and go to bed at a decent hour of the night. Plus you have to keep them fed and watered, so to sum it up, dogs keep you from going into the, “He’s gone; I don’t have a reason to live” fog.
7. Tylenol PM and a journal might become your best friends during deployment! Chances are a bottle of wine and a bubble bath will accompany them both. Don’t be surprised when you are doing normal things around the house and 15 minutes later you realize that you have not done them yet because you were stuck in a daydream about what it would be like if he were here right now.
8. You start missing little things like yelling at him for not taking the trash out, leaving his empty beer bottles in the living room for the dog to lick, or his socks on the stairs because he was so tired he just undressed walking up the stairs.
9. Dinner may just become pickles and dry cereal when he's not home, because you don't have to cook for anyone. Burger king (or the restaurants on post) will be one of the things you're happiest to see, but over time will become your greatest foe. You may even hiss a little when you pass them downtown, because you've spent so many lonely 8am's in the parking lot waiting for them to open, so you have someone to talk to.
10. When he comes home from a deployment, be prepared for both of you to look different. Your hair will most likely have a new style, length, and/or color, and you’ll pray that he likes it. He will have gained or lost weight, and have much shorter hair than your liking. He may come back with a new tattoo and/or scars. You may have either gained weight from nervous/bored eating, or lost weight because you had no appetite while he was gone. Despite all that, you’ll buy a fabulous new dress to greet him in, which you will only get to wear for no longer than the 30 minutes it takes to drive home.
11. Don’t be offended when he doesn’t notice the new blanket on the back of the couch, the new paint in the bedroom, the new shower curtain, dishes, table, desk, appliance. Or the new flowers, comforter, lamp… Basically, more than likely all he wants to look at are you, the tv, and the backs of his eyelids.
12. He might come home from deployment and not want to be "Daddy" right away. Or "Husband" He will be happy to be home, reveling in all that is "safe" and "normal". In the time he was gone you learned to do what you used to need him for. It might be hard giving those duties back to him. Don't be surprised if he doesn't want to take them back right away. Your best bet is to talk to him. Let him play with the kids, or not, for a few days. Remember, if he was gone one month or 15, you and the children may not be the exact people he remembered. Find wives on base who have been there.
13. Also, don’t be offended if your Troop asks for Macaroni and Cheese over the gourmet meal you have prepared. He’s been used to eating runny eggs, undercooked bacon, moldy charbroiled toast, and a meaty substance known as meatloaf that is .05% meat and 99.95% You Don’t Want to Know. Macaroni and cheese is simple, tastes good, and can get the job done. It’s also only 50 cents a box at the commissary and can get you through those months that you are missing $500 out of your check and only have $50 after bills to put gas in the car and get groceries.
14. Something to think about: When he is deployed, if it is possible, he will very likely relax by playing video games. They aren't real, and that means they can take him far, far away from real, and that's the most comforting thought he can get sometimes in a wartime situation. This may lead to an addiction. Our advice: try to help him keep it in moderation, but understand that this helps him. It's fun for him. It keeps him young. Take up a hobby, go out with friends, sit in the room and read while he plays. Try the game. You might like it.

And finally:


1. You are not first in your marriage. As long as he's active duty, you never will be. The military does not care if it is your anniversary. If there is a terrorist attack, pending deployment, or they just plumb feel like calling him in to work, he will go. The other option is jail time. You pick.
2. 2. Your husband will not keep every promise he ever made. In fact, between the military and his given gender, you'll be lucky if he keeps two. As long as he keeps the basic, "Promise to love, cherish, and be faithful" you're in good standing. The rest will have to be hashed out, fought over, and *****ed about to girlfriends. Please see for further instructions (and a forum!)
3. This is one a lot of people don't understand, future spouse. As the spouse you become the person who gets the news. Most of the time, he will call you, write you, e-mail you first. God forbid he dies, because you will be the one to find out. This leaves you in a very poor situation, as someone (often, but definitely not always, his mother) will be jealous that they are not receiving every call made out of the war zone, school, or basic training (boot camp). This can lead to verbal/physical/mental feuds between you and his family. If you are lucky, most of his family (ESPECIALLY any prior military members) will understand and leave you alone.
4. In regards to this, it will also be your fault, should you marry him, if he does not call home.
5. Over time, the number of deployments you and your husband have been through will greatly outnumber the number of anniversaries you two have actually spent together in the same town, let alone state or country.
6. You will remember the year your son was born, but you’ll fight over what base you were at, in what state or country.
7. Never assume your husband is going to get his ten day TDY [or time off of work for ANYTHING]. You may just get stuck doing all the legwork finding a place to live yourself because you’re number 213 on the base housing list and they are not concerned with helping you find a place off post. When he’s promised his days and they never come, you’re steady out on your own running up the miles on your car in a town you know nothing about. But, as they say, when you assume, you make an ass out of “u”, and me.
8. You will NOT see your family as often as you want to. You will most likely not be stationed near home. Your siblings will suddenly possess time machines and constantly step too far into the future for your liking. Invest in a good phone plan, and webcam. It helps.
9. The most heartbreaking thing I've had so far - you will have to choose between your job (or lack of money) and your grandma's funeral. Or weddings. Or baptisms. Or family reunions. We are sincerely sorry. We can almost guarantee this will bring you to your knees more than once. On the same note, it is not extremely uncommon to hear of women who delivered, raised, and/or lost babies while their DHs were deployed/TDY.

(For the record, we lost three grandparents, between me and DH during our FIRST year of marriage, this last year. I went to my first military funeral. I missed my grandpa's funeral, and went to my grandma's because she was the second (last) of my dad's parents to pass in the year, and he almost had a heart attack when his dad died. I needed to be with him, and my mom. This one will hit hard, and I regret having to post it, but if we're being honest, it is the ONE thing I wish someone would have REALLY told me. I am SINCERELY, extremely sorry for any man, woman, or child who had to miss anything going on back home, for the sake of the military.)
10. Expect that during his career in the military, more often than not, you will be both Mommy and Daddy at home. You will take care of your kids, giving them all of the love you can and emphasizing the honorable role their Daddy. You wait (sometimes not so patiently) for him to come home and embrace him, giving him back his Daddy "role". This is especially prevalent if you have very small children for they will "know" Daddy but as you look forward to homecoming day, your children will be looking at you to wipe your eyes, stand up and brush it off and continue on being the amazing wife and mother the military sometimes forgets to acknowledge.

I'll tell you something though. I don't think there's a woman who contributed who didn't have fun thinking about it. It does get hard. It does get oppressive. The lady down the street who has 183 cats, 7 foot tall grass, and a car engine hanging from the tree starts to make sense. Some days hard liquor and a bottle of Zoloft sounds like a good combination, but there is something about it, a magic about it, that once you start to complain, and someone says, " OH MY GOD do I HEAR you! Let me tell you about how Jimbo got shot and they told him to pick up the guy next to him and carry him to the hospital if he wanted to go so bad!"

All of a sudden, it looks funny. And honestly, if this is how you feel, like it's starting to become real, then this thread has actually found the purpose I intended it for. And honestly, I don't know. You MIGHT very well print it out, read over it once a day, fear it, lose it, find it again in 6 months and laugh your A$$ off at how many things now are not only real, but ancient history. Like I said, some of this stuff I wish someone would have told me. All of it, actually. Now you know what you're up against. Don't let him go. Buy armor.

My biggest advice: Surround yourself with positive influences.

It's too easy in the military to drink underage, party, etc. It's also very easy to doubt your husband when he is away. This is harder for National Guard wives, who don't have a post nearby to run to. Still, find stories of marriages that did last. Through many deployments. Find people whose husbands broke up with them because they thought it would be too hard, and got back together. Be nice to veterans. If all goes as planned, you might be one of those someday. A lot of vets are still married to their high school sweethearts. Get to know their stories, if you can. You'll be amazed.

As my husband (then, boyfriend) said once, and every military wife can tell you: "While life apart is miserable, life alone is death."