Photos of my angels

I have not taken photos of my girls in awhile so today I took a few. I also found a bunch of old photos on Mikes computer.

My Goals for 2010

It's that time of the year again when people start planning thier new years resolutions. I have a few that I need to stick to. I always say that and end up giving up a week later but this time they need to stick..

1. Lose Weight...This has been a major battle for me. I need to buy a scale and weekly I'll weigh myself and see if any progress is being made. My only weakness is soda. So we will be buying a water filter for water and healthy snacks. My daughters have been drinking soda and eating crap also and that is bothering me. So everyone in the house will be eating healthy from now on.

2. I need to get this house organized. This house is a wreck and everyday it gets more and more messy.

3. I need to start laying some rules out for my daughters and not letting Danielle get away with everything she does. She really does not have any discipline. How do you discipline a 2 yr old? My husband says I should spank her and I disagree.

4. I need to be more social and get out of the house. My daughters need people to play with and I need some adult conversation for once.

This is all I have for now. I might be adding more as time goes by.

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Check out my amazon store.

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I have mostly baby stuff on there and toys for your kids also..

Venting...

I can't fucking believe how much of a fight my 2 yr old puts up around nap time and bed time. Do you think I'm putting her to bed to early? She normally gets up around 7 730 am and naps around 12 1230. Then bed time is usually 7 730. Do you think I should change it? I haven't showered in 3 days because of these kids. Gross I know. We also have no money once again and not enough food in the house. We have a turkey for thanksgiving but nothing else. So no cranberry sauce, no stuffing, no mashed potatos..Well we do have brown rice and dirty rice. That's it. Soon we won't have anything to drink but milk and water. My husband doesn't get paid again until the 1st. God I hate the military and I hate not having any food..Lord only knows what I'll feed the girls for lunch and breakfast tommorow. I do have $5 so I'll run to walmart and see what I can buy for $5.

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Watch tv shows online for free

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BabySafe Travel

Do you have kids and love to travel? Then you really need to check this site out: baby banz. They have a lot of cute stuff to buy for your travels for your children. You can also book a hotel, read other mothers blogs, and read traveling tips. You can share photos and your own tips for other mothers to read as well. Check it out.

Real Property Management

Real Property Management Midwest has received "Franchise of the Year, Honorable Mention" award and is the best place to rent your home through. There website is located here: Real Property Management. They make it fast for you to rent out your property and they even do 3 checkups a year to make sure the tenants are taking care of your property. They even go and collect the rent for you so no problems occur. They even pay for the cost to evict someone if you should need to. They have been called the best realtor company in Cinncinati and Columbus, Ohio. There website is well done and you people who rent from you can pay thier rent online as well. They also have some nice homes available.

Rapidshare Search

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I Want...

I want my husband to be more romantic and lovey dovey. Yesterday was our 3 yr anniversary and we did nothing. He never even said Happy Anniversary to me, no card nothing. He doesn't kiss me or hug me or hold my hand ever. He walks a few feet in front of me everytime we go out. He doesn't talk to me much either. It would be nice to be able to spend time with him alone. So we can talk and hang out.

Couples Corner

This week at Couples Corner is 'The Day I said I Do'

The day Mike and I said I do was 3 yrs ago yesterday actually. We had the ceremony and the after party at Hewlett Fire Department. My husband is a volunteer firefighter so they gave us a discounted price to use there party room. It was nice for something that was thrown together in 2 months. He asked me to marry him in September and by November we were married. It was rushed because he was going active duty in the military and we had to be married before November 16th when he left for his assigned duty station. We have our ups and downs but overall it is a good marriage and we love each other. What more can you ask for?

Happy Veterans Day

Family Child Care

I took my daughters to the park this morning and after playing for like 20 minutes some lady comes over with 4 kids. She asks me if I had childcare for my daughters, I told her no. She said i could have my own daycare in my home while watching my daughters also. She said the military runs this family day care and I can be an FAA. She said she gets 1700 every 2 weeks for watching 4 kids. She gets $300 for food and $100 for each child from the military plus $250 from each parent. You are required to take a class for a week and in during that time the military pays someone else to watch your daughters. I would probably take 2 more 2 yr olds and one 18 month old. Thats awesome, an extra $1700 every two weeks. We can really use the money with Christmas coming and everything. I have to call them and look into it. They also supply extra cribs and changing tables if I need them. I definitly have to call and get more info.

VineFire

Vinefire is a website that lists links for websites that you can earn money from. You get paid to click on these links. I just joined a few minutes ago and already reached $15 for clicking on a few links. Your limit is $25 a day. Which isn't bad at all..You also can add links of your own to get referrals and each time someone else clicks on that link you get money and also referrals. Check it out now here.

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I love these things...so cute

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Fort Hood Tragedy and now another...

My prayers go out to the families of all wounded at Fort Hood and now this..

http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/11/06/orlando.shootings/index.html

What is going on with everyone lately?

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Being A Mom

Being a mom is sooooo much work. Danielle has entered the terrible two stage and it is beyond terrible. She does what she wants and sreams bloody murder until you give in to her. She asks for candy and soda from the minute the wakes up in the morning. She does not eat normally. She will eat crap though. I don't know what to do with her anymore. The pacifier is become a real pain in the ass as well. She will not part with them at all. They are starting to put a gap between her two front teeth. Maybe it's me..I don't want to listen to the screaming so I constantly give in to her and let her do whatever to an extent. I can't anymore!! Being a stay at home mom with no one to talk to but a 2 yr old and a 1 yr old is starting to have a toll on me..I hope things get better soon.

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10 Ways to Waste Time on the Internet

1. Download music
2. Read all my friends journals
3. Make graphics
4. Play cafeworld on facebook...very addicting
5. Watch a movie on netflix
6. Chat with some people in a chatroom
7. Upload photos
8. Go to fubar.com and rate peoples photos
9. Listen to music
10. play games on iwon.com

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Hey

Sorry I haven't been around in a few days. I hope everyone had an amazing halloween. My daughters had a blast and below are some pictures. I had to finish my orientation for school before tommorow and that took up most of last night. I am also looking for a host for my blog. I wanted to go with godaddy but they were too expensive. Does anyone know of any good hosting sites? I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanx guys..Now onto the photos

The Box

I just saw a commercial for the new movie The Box. This guy comes to her house with a box that has a red button in it. She presses the button and gets a million dollars but the catch is that when she pushes the red button someone she does not know will die. What would you do? Would you push a red button for a million dollars even though you know someone somewhere will die? Would you feel at all guilty or just enjoy your financial freedom?

Roku Digital player

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Thursday Thunks

1. So Halloween is this weekend, if you haven't heard. Are you gonna open your doors up or not? I will be out trick or treating with my daughters. If we are home and get trick or treaters I will be opening my door.

2. You better open 'em cuz I'm coming... what are you putting in my treat bag?
We have a variety of candy..reeses, snickers, twix, mounds bars, and more

3. Since October is the bestest month for television (well for cable & dish subscribers it is) and there is a horror movie on at any given time of the day - are you sick of them yet? I'm a huge horror fan and I can not get enough of the movies..

4. Which one of those movies can you watch over & over again?
Any of them that have alot of gore in them..

5. Tell us about a Halloween scare you've had....
Never really had one

6. Did you watch the old Casper cartoons when you were a youngin? Well, back then they weren't old I suppose, but I'm sure you still understand my question.
nope I don't remember if I did

7. Have you ever found a four-leaf clover?
No

8. Haunted Houses... you know, the kinds you pay to get in and they chase you with chainsaws and severed heads.... do you like 'em?
I love them

9. Do you use cute cartoon type wrapping paper for Christmas presents or the not cutesy paper? Or are you one of those gift card and/or gift bag people?
yes of course..disney princess for my daughters

10. How long do boiled eggs need to stay in the boiling water before they become hard boiled eggs?
according to my husband 20 minutes

11. Jason is coming in through your front door... Freddy is coming through your back door... zombies are at every window of the house and Norman Bates is calling to invite you to dinner... what do you do?
go to dinner with norman bates..I'll take my chances with him

12. Did you know that the scariest part of Halloween is giving all of your Reeses Peanut Butter Cups away?
ya i know

13a. If you were to play a part of a haunted house (not the ghosts in the attic kind), what would you want to be?
the person that accepts your tickets and lets u in lol

13b. Have you ever played a part in a haunted house?
no
14. If Thursday Thunks had a Halloween party, what do you think Kimber & Berleen would come dressed as?
who knows

15. Do you cook a turkey for Thanksgiving?
yes

16. Have you ever read a book that scared the pants off of you?
no

17. Whats the predicted high temperature for today?
it's raining but it's supposed to be 60 something

18. Have you ever howled at the moon?
no
19.You are in an alley and a werewolf and a vampire are coming at you - one of them has to win. Which one do you want to bite you?
Vampire..at least I'll live forever

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Giveaway

My friend over at Life As An Armyduck is giving away a book to her readers. She has three books for you to chose from so go check it out here.

Contest for Military Families

I was asked in an email to post about this in my blog. It sounds like a great contest and you win a laptop.

AllAmericanDirect.com announces the final re-launch of ’Laptops for Flat Tops’ contest for military families



Leading e-tailer is hosting final contest giving military families a chance to win laptops and Webcams to communicate with loved ones serving overseas



INDIANAPOLIS – (October 5, 2009) – AllAmericanDirect.com, a leading e-commerce provider of consumer goods and services, today announces the company’s fourth and final Laptops for Flat Tops contest, which will award one laptop with an embedded Webcam (for the family) and an additional Webcam (for the soldier) to two families who have an immediate family member serving in any branch of the U.S. military overseas.



This contest arrives on the heels of three successful Laptops for Flattops contests, which provided multiple military families the opportunity to more intimately connect with their loved ones. The popular contest re-launches on Monday, October 5 to provide a final opportunity for two more deserving military families.



Kara Rowbury of Fort Riley , Kan. was one of two winners during the company’s third contest. Upon her husband’s most recent deployment to Afghanistan , Mrs. Rowbury’s two children were informed their dad would only have access to a phone once a week. Mrs. Rowbury received news of her family’s win the night of her son, Xavier’s eleventh birthday.



“As he was blowing out the candles he wished that he could talk to his dad more often,” said Mrs. Rowbury. “That very evening I checked my e-mail and saw that we had won this contest! This was my son’s wish come true.”



To enter, all participants need to do is visit http://www.allamericandirect.com/military?cid=400604 and submit a short written description in their own words of why their family deserves to win, and how a laptop can improve their lives and communication with their loved one serving overseas. Families must be able to verify their loved one’s military enlistment. Anyone who knows of a deserving military family may submit an entry on their behalf.

“The stories that we have heard from the families of our military men and women have touched and inspired us,” said Mike Mountford, CEO of AllAmericanDirect.com. “I am speaking on behalf of my team, here at AllAmericanDirect.com, when I say we are truly grateful for the sacrifices that these men, women and their families have made to serve our country. We hope this final, small gesture will be seen as a tribute to those who have sacrificed so much for all of us.”



Entries for the contest can be submitted as early as 12:00 AM EDT (24:00 GMT) on Monday, October 5 via http://www.allamericandirect.com/military?cid=400604. The contest closes at 11:59 PM EDT (15:59 GMT) on Friday, November 13. Winners of the contest will be announced on Monday, November 30.



Judging will be done by a panel of three judges including: Col. (Ret.) Dale A. Kissinger, partner at MilitaryAvenue.com and a colonel (retired) in the U.S. Air Force, Mr. Scott Davis, an Air Force veteran of Operation Desert Storm and father of Army PFC Sean Davis, who is stationed in Vicenza, Italy, and is preparing for his second tour of duty in Afghanistan, and Ms. Jenna Richards, the sister of Capt. Phillip Richards and his wife Capt. Michelle Richards who are active in the Army’s 82nd Airborne Division and were deployed in September 2009 to Iraq for their second tour of duty.



Further information on AllAmericanDirect.com’s products and services is available online at http://www.allamericandirect.com/?cid=40060.

Photos of my girls

This is what we do all day lol. We take pics!!

Pictures of Alexandra & Danielle

This one is my favorite of them two. Danielle was reading a book to her sister. So cute!

Danielle sitting with daddy

Alexandra in her walker

Questions

I'm not sure who exactly reads my journal but if you do and wish to know something about me, anything at all now is your chance to ask. Comment with a question for me and I will post an answer. Thanx!

Going To School....Online anyways

I got approved for that program that gives military spouses $6,000 towards education. I'm getting a certificate in Law Enforcement online through Allied American University. It's a 5 class course that only costs $750 a class. So total it came to a little over $5,000 so I'm covered 100% through the military. I start my first class Nov 2nd Police and Police Procedures. I'm so excited I can't stand it!! I have to email him a copy of my high school diploma. I have a scanner that I need to hook up tonight when the girls go to bed. As soon as all this is done I can start Nov 2nd. By the time we get back to NY I will be able to get a good job to help support my daughters. I'm freaking excited!!! Did I mention how excited I am !! lol

Leaving!!

Never mind!

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Perfumes

Being a female I just love wearing perfume. I do not leave my house until I spray one of my favorite scents on myself. A few of my favorites are Victoria Secrets Love Spell and Tommy girl perfume by Tommy. Perfumes that smell like vanilla or strawberry get my attention the most. Vanilla and strawberry are of course my favorite scents for perfumes. A few other perfumes I like are Burberry Brit, White Diamonds by Elizabeth Taylor. If you love perfume as much as I do, check out this new website: online perfume. They have a wide selection of designer perfumes at great prices.

Motorcycle Parts & Accesories

Do you have a motorcycle? Do you need to fix it up, make it look nice? Then check this site out: honda shadow 750. This site has over 30,000 different accesories as well as parts for your bike. They offer a wide variety of name brands and they are all 60% off. They have everything you could ask for for your motorcycle. They have tires, bars and grips, seats, tools and maintenance, and so many other categories to chose from. There website is very easy to navigate through. You can even search by brand name, by model, clearance or by popular search. So for all of your motorcycle needs check them out today.

Wow

So a few times I found chewing tobacco in Mikes jackets. He says he is holding it for his friends. Ya ok!! I guess I look like an idiot or something. So just now he says he is going in the bathroom to shower and do whatever and not to come up because he will be back down soon. Ok so I wait and after a few minutes I go up and lay on the floor by the bathroom door and look in. The way it's setup is theres enough space between the bottom of the bathroom door and floor to see whats going on if you lean your head the right way. Well I saw him pick up the cup next to him on the floor and spit into it a few times. He then stood up spit into the toilet and flushed it. I know he is hiding it somewhere in the bathroom or our closet. Our walk in closet is off of the bathroom. I can't find it though. I'm not sure if I should say something because he knows how much I hate him doing that. I didn't want to marry a smoker or someone who does any kind of tobacco product. I'm real pissed right now!

World For Moms

World For moms is a forum for moms and moms to be. They have alot of forums such as mom to girls/boys, military wives club, freebies, pregnancy forum and many more. They also have an arcade you can play on the site. So check them out.

Weekly Wrapup

Did you do your chores today?

So did you? Some of them ya
What does your weekly chore schedule consist of, if anything? sweeping, mopping, scrubbing the bathrooms, dishes, laundry, vacuuming
Do you plan when you’ll do things, do them as you go, don’t do any chores or leave everything until the house needs to be condemned? I have to do things when my daughters sleep at night.
What is your favourite chore? Least favourite? laundry believe it or not is my favorite...doing the dishes is my least favorite.
What item makes doing chores less stress/hassle or more fun/enjoyable for you? dishwasher =)

Saturday 9

1. If everyone liked each other, what would we complain about?
I'm sure we would find something to complain about. If not about our friends then problems in life..

2. If you were most powerful person in the world, how would you use that power?
I would make sure laws were followed..I would make sure everyone obeyed me lol

3. If had exactly one year to live, what are the three things you'd want to do before you died?
I'd rob a bank and hide the money and only tell my daughters were it was..This way when I die they can have the money for themselves.

4. If you could change one thing about the world, what would that one thing be?
Mothers harming thier children.

5. If you could take one thing back, what would that one thing be?
Dating Ritchy for 5 yrs

6. If you were stuck on an island forever but had all the water, food and shelter you needed. What would be the three other things you'd bring with you?
my 2 daughters, and my laptop

7. If the internet didn't exist, would the quality of life go up or down?
up..We would have to get out and do something..The obesity rate would probably drop also

8. If a million dollars fell off a back of a truck, would you keep it?
yep

9. What is something you said, something you stole, something you did wrong?
I honestly can say I never stole anything...I did treat someone i loved at the time like shit..I was very nasty and mean to him.

Wordless Wendsday

My daughters are too cute










Wordless Wednesday

So upset

I had a job interview today at Mcdonalds. I got the job but I have to go to a class at 4 pm today to get a food handlers card and that will cost $15. Then I have oriention at 10 am tommorow. First of all we do not have $15. Even if we did Mike doesn't get out of work until 5 so I can't get to the class at 4. Also I have no one to watch my two daughters. So there goes that job! I might as well work when they go to school..

Hi

Think eggs, think nightmares.

Buy Your Car

There is this new site where selling and/or buying a car has never been easier. The site is only about 3 years old and is making great business so far. The link for the site is new cars. They help you chose the car that's right for you.You can even look at car reviews to see what others have said about a certain car. You can apply for car loans and get car insurance quotes on the same site as well. They also offer delivery to anywhere in the U.K. This site works with dealers and care brokers to help you get a great deal for your money. It's seems like an awesome site with alot of information and is worth looking into.

SweetPRT

A new paid to read site that gives you a $25 sign up bonus and $10 per email you read..

Tripleclicks

I found a site like ebay where you can sell your unwanted stuff online..Check it out

Linkfromblog

I found this site that pays you to write reviews and your opinion on certain stuff. If you wish to make some extra money why not check it out..

Wow

I just saw on CNN that a 61 yr old man told this woman to shut her 2 yr old daughter up because she was crying otherwise he was going to shut her up. So the 2 yr old kept crying and the man grabbed her and slapped her in the face 4 or 5 times. He is now going to prison. Can you believe that shit? I would have killed the man.

Update

We left NY June 25th. Mike was due to get home June 28th. t took us 2 1/2 days to drive down to Oklahoma. We get to Oklahoma an the rooms we reserved on base we couldn't check into them until 3 the next afternoon. We got into OK at 3 in the morning. So what the hell were we supposed to do until 3 the next day? We fucking slept in the car!! Me, My MIL, my SIL, and my two daughters...Danielle is 2 and Alexandra was 10 months old at the time. We slept in the car..I felt so ghetto.I honestly would not have cared so much if I didn't have kids. But I felt like a horrible mom that we had to sleep in the car. Anyways Mike came home and everything was fine. We got back to NY in one peice also. We spent 30 days in NY and then we had to leave for the drive back down to OK once again. This time he reenlisted so I will not have to drive back to NY until 2011. I wish I could stay here though. I love my house on base and it's quiet here. Anyways...pics below from NY, and other random crap...

My husband and Danielle



Alexandra playing in the backyard


Mike and Alexandra


Me

Military Sucks

Dear Future Military Spouse:

Congratulations! You found a good man and are actively pursuing a wedding. We’re so happy for you.
We regret to inform you that, as a future military wife, you will have to undergo a severe hazing. Unfortunately, by the time you're well immersed, it may be too late to change your mind. The military is not a bowl of peaches and cherries. As Erma Bombeck famously asked once, "If life is a bowl of cherries, what am I doing in the pits?" You will come to understand this in time.

Here, compiled by the wives, fiancées, and girlfriends at: http://www.militarysos.com (Military Significant Other Support website and forum) is a list of things that will not please you, and strong advice on how to deal. It is separated into sections: Military Life (general), Money, Deployment (and all that follows), and Family. It is both funny and serious, trivial and deep, every day and extreme, but most of all, it is Honest.

Military Life (In General)

1. We begin with Boot camp. Boot camp really does change almost everyone. This is not always a bad thing. Sometimes they come away with pride, integrity, and more love and appreciation for you than either of you knew he was capable of feeling. Sometimes he comes home haughty, rude, or distant. Hurt, happy, or simply looking different, these are changes that you can adapt to, or move on. We strongly suggest attempting adaptation. Find a good group of friends.
2. Troops don’t work 9-5, Monday to Friday only.
3. One day they could be working days, the next, nights.
4. Don’t bother planning a vacation. Leave-chits can and probably will be denied, depending on what kind of mood their superiors are in that day.
5. If you DO get leave approved and plan a vacation, you can rest assured that at the worst possible time, you and your husband will be pulled aside and checked in airport security, because his dress uniform (WITH metal belt buckle and nameplate) will set off the alarms. Supposedly they’re not supposed to be allowed to check military members in uniform. Someone tell them that.
6. The bathroom will now be referred to as “The Head”. Your kitchen will now be “Mess hall, or Chow.”
7. You will be dumped into a totally new town where the neighbors will be crazy, no one will know how to drive, the radio stations will suck, and you’ll spend a good part of your first month trying to figure out the cheapest place to buy food and a stiff drink.
8. His friends will not only be your friends, but if you get married and move him out of the barracks/dorms, you can probably expect one or 6 of his friends to move in too.
9. Inspections
10. Moving
11. Cleaning
12. Maintaining the yard to government standards.
13. Civilians. That's pretty much a letter in itself. They do not understand your plight, fears, or added burdens. All they know is that you're swimming in cash, toss diamonds around your living room, have no neighbor troubles at all, and that you get paid by the kid in the military. It is extremely probable that none of these will ever be true, unless by "cash" you mean debt, by "diamonds" you mean tantrums because you're on your 6th move in 7 years, by "no neighbor troubles" they mean I have my head so far up my a**.....moving on...

Civilians p.2. "Civilians will never understand, but they love telling you that you knew what you were signing up for, and/or their blind, often ignorant views about your husband's job or the war that it entails."
14. “Civilians, take note. He DOES work when not on deployment. He doesn’t just sit around in my living room eating bon bons and watching soap operas. (Oh wait – or is that me because I’m a stay-at-home-mom?)
15. Stereotypes. People will assume he's cheating on you, he cusses, and he will have a tattoo. They might be right. There's a reason for the stereotypes. This is an issue that requires you TRUST him.
16. CLASSIFIED means SECRET, which means he is not ALLOWED to tell you. It's not a choice. This is another issue that requires your TRUST. It also means you need to KNOW the rules.
17. You will have to deal sometimes with higher ups who think their poop doesn't stink, and that your husband’s petty, trivial inconveniences (you know, his wife has severe depression and can't get a doctor's appointment) don't matter.
18. Also, wives who wear their husbands' rank (this is NOT always, or even often, in some cases, officers' wives. They are human too. Most of them are wonderful people. Some of them wear their husbands' ranks, but so do some enlisted wives).
19. Free medical care: Otherwise known as waiting to take care of it until you get to a base/post with a decent hospital/medical system that accepts Tricare, so you can go back and forth between the military clinic and/or Tricare over whether it’s covered or not, then go back for referrals, prescriptions, etc.
20. Just because a ship’s doc is called, “doc” doesn’t mean he’ll give the same attention and care as a doctor in the civilian world. Chances are, he won’t give much notice at all and will slap your hubby’s back and tell him to take some ibuprofen and let him know how it is in a week. Then, when your hubby goes back the week later, he’ll tell him it’s the same thing and give him more ibuprofen!
21. Another pseudo-perk: 24 hour maintenance doesn’t always mean 24 hours. Most of the time it’s, ‘Turn off the main valve for your water and we’ll have someone there between 8am and 4 pm tomorrow’, which could very well turn into next week.
22. Forget everything the recruiter told you. Their job is NOT to make happy marriages.
23. You will get screwed again and again…and again. It’s par for the course. Don’t worry, you’re not special. It’s like a code.
24. To that effect, do not be surprised if you get so stressed you begin to hear Mimes. In fact, you may just answer the questions going through THEIR heads.
Onward and upwards:

Money

1. The BX (Aka: PX, NEX) will probably rob you, price wise. We suggest the commissary for food and batteries and basic needs. The BX does, however, price match (to downtown stores, not the commissary), and you don't pay tax. Woot.
2. Be prepared to have your pay messed up or delayed for no reason at all.
3. If the military gives you too much money, it will be ripped out of his account faster and harder than a Brazilian wax in bikini season. If they underpay him, that money will slowly trickle into his account...sometime over the next six months to three years. And if you don't catch it, don't expect to ever see it again.
4. Companies may hesitate to hire you, because they know you’ll move.
5. Likewise, the military doesn’t care if you’re halfway through college and no credits transfer. He will move when they tell him to.
6. When you do move, most likely you’ll be in Podunkville USA and air travel will be twice as expensive, or you’ll be in Touristville USA and air travel will be twice as expensive. God help you if you want to see your stateside family while he’s stationed overseas.

That wasn’t so hard. Onto:

Deployment

1. To begin with: Your husband has signed up for a chance at death. I'm sorry. Some of us like to ignore this. Some like to be prepared. Some still haven't found a way to deal. See the aforementioned website and forum.
2. Six month deployments are rarely six months.
3. Acquaint yourself with your computer….fast. It may be your best friend.
4. If you hear a schedule more than a few days before it happens, most likely it will be: A.) Longer,
B.) Longer, or
C.) Longer than you anticipated.
5. If you don’t have kids, you will more than likely end up with a dog or cat.
6. Get a dog. They don’t talk back, and can’t drive for you, but they keep you warm at night, still make messes, require you to wake up at a decent hour in the morning and go to bed at a decent hour of the night. Plus you have to keep them fed and watered, so to sum it up, dogs keep you from going into the, “He’s gone; I don’t have a reason to live” fog.
7. Tylenol PM and a journal might become your best friends during deployment! Chances are a bottle of wine and a bubble bath will accompany them both. Don’t be surprised when you are doing normal things around the house and 15 minutes later you realize that you have not done them yet because you were stuck in a daydream about what it would be like if he were here right now.
8. You start missing little things like yelling at him for not taking the trash out, leaving his empty beer bottles in the living room for the dog to lick, or his socks on the stairs because he was so tired he just undressed walking up the stairs.
9. Dinner may just become pickles and dry cereal when he's not home, because you don't have to cook for anyone. Burger king (or the restaurants on post) will be one of the things you're happiest to see, but over time will become your greatest foe. You may even hiss a little when you pass them downtown, because you've spent so many lonely 8am's in the parking lot waiting for them to open, so you have someone to talk to.
10. When he comes home from a deployment, be prepared for both of you to look different. Your hair will most likely have a new style, length, and/or color, and you’ll pray that he likes it. He will have gained or lost weight, and have much shorter hair than your liking. He may come back with a new tattoo and/or scars. You may have either gained weight from nervous/bored eating, or lost weight because you had no appetite while he was gone. Despite all that, you’ll buy a fabulous new dress to greet him in, which you will only get to wear for no longer than the 30 minutes it takes to drive home.
11. Don’t be offended when he doesn’t notice the new blanket on the back of the couch, the new paint in the bedroom, the new shower curtain, dishes, table, desk, appliance. Or the new flowers, comforter, lamp… Basically, more than likely all he wants to look at are you, the tv, and the backs of his eyelids.
12. He might come home from deployment and not want to be "Daddy" right away. Or "Husband" He will be happy to be home, reveling in all that is "safe" and "normal". In the time he was gone you learned to do what you used to need him for. It might be hard giving those duties back to him. Don't be surprised if he doesn't want to take them back right away. Your best bet is to talk to him. Let him play with the kids, or not, for a few days. Remember, if he was gone one month or 15, you and the children may not be the exact people he remembered. Find wives on base who have been there.
13. Also, don’t be offended if your Troop asks for Macaroni and Cheese over the gourmet meal you have prepared. He’s been used to eating runny eggs, undercooked bacon, moldy charbroiled toast, and a meaty substance known as meatloaf that is .05% meat and 99.95% You Don’t Want to Know. Macaroni and cheese is simple, tastes good, and can get the job done. It’s also only 50 cents a box at the commissary and can get you through those months that you are missing $500 out of your check and only have $50 after bills to put gas in the car and get groceries.
14. Something to think about: When he is deployed, if it is possible, he will very likely relax by playing video games. They aren't real, and that means they can take him far, far away from real, and that's the most comforting thought he can get sometimes in a wartime situation. This may lead to an addiction. Our advice: try to help him keep it in moderation, but understand that this helps him. It's fun for him. It keeps him young. Take up a hobby, go out with friends, sit in the room and read while he plays. Try the game. You might like it.

And finally:

Family

1. You are not first in your marriage. As long as he's active duty, you never will be. The military does not care if it is your anniversary. If there is a terrorist attack, pending deployment, or they just plumb feel like calling him in to work, he will go. The other option is jail time. You pick.
2. 2. Your husband will not keep every promise he ever made. In fact, between the military and his given gender, you'll be lucky if he keeps two. As long as he keeps the basic, "Promise to love, cherish, and be faithful" you're in good standing. The rest will have to be hashed out, fought over, and *****ed about to girlfriends. Please see http://www.militarysos.com for further instructions (and a forum!)
3. This is one a lot of people don't understand, future spouse. As the spouse you become the person who gets the news. Most of the time, he will call you, write you, e-mail you first. God forbid he dies, because you will be the one to find out. This leaves you in a very poor situation, as someone (often, but definitely not always, his mother) will be jealous that they are not receiving every call made out of the war zone, school, or basic training (boot camp). This can lead to verbal/physical/mental feuds between you and his family. If you are lucky, most of his family (ESPECIALLY any prior military members) will understand and leave you alone.
4. In regards to this, it will also be your fault, should you marry him, if he does not call home.
5. Over time, the number of deployments you and your husband have been through will greatly outnumber the number of anniversaries you two have actually spent together in the same town, let alone state or country.
6. You will remember the year your son was born, but you’ll fight over what base you were at, in what state or country.
7. Never assume your husband is going to get his ten day TDY [or time off of work for ANYTHING]. You may just get stuck doing all the legwork finding a place to live yourself because you’re number 213 on the base housing list and they are not concerned with helping you find a place off post. When he’s promised his days and they never come, you’re steady out on your own running up the miles on your car in a town you know nothing about. But, as they say, when you assume, you make an ass out of “u”, and me.
8. You will NOT see your family as often as you want to. You will most likely not be stationed near home. Your siblings will suddenly possess time machines and constantly step too far into the future for your liking. Invest in a good phone plan, and webcam. It helps.
9. The most heartbreaking thing I've had so far - you will have to choose between your job (or lack of money) and your grandma's funeral. Or weddings. Or baptisms. Or family reunions. We are sincerely sorry. We can almost guarantee this will bring you to your knees more than once. On the same note, it is not extremely uncommon to hear of women who delivered, raised, and/or lost babies while their DHs were deployed/TDY.

(For the record, we lost three grandparents, between me and DH during our FIRST year of marriage, this last year. I went to my first military funeral. I missed my grandpa's funeral, and went to my grandma's because she was the second (last) of my dad's parents to pass in the year, and he almost had a heart attack when his dad died. I needed to be with him, and my mom. This one will hit hard, and I regret having to post it, but if we're being honest, it is the ONE thing I wish someone would have REALLY told me. I am SINCERELY, extremely sorry for any man, woman, or child who had to miss anything going on back home, for the sake of the military.)
10. Expect that during his career in the military, more often than not, you will be both Mommy and Daddy at home. You will take care of your kids, giving them all of the love you can and emphasizing the honorable role their Daddy. You wait (sometimes not so patiently) for him to come home and embrace him, giving him back his Daddy "role". This is especially prevalent if you have very small children for they will "know" Daddy but as you look forward to homecoming day, your children will be looking at you to wipe your eyes, stand up and brush it off and continue on being the amazing wife and mother the military sometimes forgets to acknowledge.

I'll tell you something though. I don't think there's a woman who contributed who didn't have fun thinking about it. It does get hard. It does get oppressive. The lady down the street who has 183 cats, 7 foot tall grass, and a car engine hanging from the tree starts to make sense. Some days hard liquor and a bottle of Zoloft sounds like a good combination, but there is something about it, a magic about it, that once you start to complain, and someone says, " OH MY GOD do I HEAR you! Let me tell you about how Jimbo got shot and they told him to pick up the guy next to him and carry him to the hospital if he wanted to go so bad!"

All of a sudden, it looks funny. And honestly, if this is how you feel, like it's starting to become real, then this thread has actually found the purpose I intended it for. And honestly, I don't know. You MIGHT very well print it out, read over it once a day, fear it, lose it, find it again in 6 months and laugh your A$$ off at how many things now are not only real, but ancient history. Like I said, some of this stuff I wish someone would have told me. All of it, actually. Now you know what you're up against. Don't let him go. Buy armor.

My biggest advice: Surround yourself with positive influences.

It's too easy in the military to drink underage, party, etc. It's also very easy to doubt your husband when he is away. This is harder for National Guard wives, who don't have a post nearby to run to. Still, find stories of marriages that did last. Through many deployments. Find people whose husbands broke up with them because they thought it would be too hard, and got back together. Be nice to veterans. If all goes as planned, you might be one of those someday. A lot of vets are still married to their high school sweethearts. Get to know their stories, if you can. You'll be amazed.

As my husband (then, boyfriend) said once, and every military wife can tell you: "While life apart is miserable, life alone is death."

Ways to get paid online

If you are a stay at home mom like I am then check this out. I found a bunch of ways to make money online by reading emails,clicking on ads and viewing them for 30 seconds or less, and just doing what you normally do. Check out these sites below. I promise you they are legit. I would not post them if they weren't.















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Youdata

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Saturday 9

1. What time of day do you usually play Saturday 9?
Any chance I get. Usually late at night.

2. At 9AM on a weekday, what are you doing?
Feeding Alexandra

3. At 9PM on any given night, what would you most like to be doing?
either at the gym or sitting online watching tv

4. What is your most frequent activity online?
Myspace and facebook

5. Is there one day of the week that seems to fly by? If yes, why?
no everyday flys by for me

6. Do you agree that the older you get, the faster time seems to go by?
yes...

7. What is your favorite thing to do with free time?
sit online

8. How much time do you spend alone? Would you like it to be more? Less?
a few hours before going to bed. I would love more time to myself.

9. If you could spend one hour doing something what would it be?
sleeping

Random Thoughts

I hate night time. This is the time I have to myself. My daughters are both sleeping, the dishes are done, the house is clean and now it's relaxing time. I should be enjoying my time but sometimes I don't. This would be our time together, my husband and I. I miss him a lot. I have such a night planned when he comes home. We are going out to eat, then to a nice hotel. It's some place in Commack, NY. They have heart shaped jaccuzis and heart shaped beds.Very Romantic. I also bought a valentines set from walmart that has two wine glasses, 2 heart shaped candles, and 24 rose petals. I figured I would tell Mike to wait in the car and I'll set everything up. I want it to be romantic and not sleazy. I don't want to have sex or fuck..We don't make love and that's what I want. It's the romantic in me. Then maybe in the middle of the night we get into the freaky sex lol. I also bought lingerie to wear for him and handcuffs also. They were the cute kind that they sell in walmart for V-Day. I guess has a joke lol. They were cute so I got them for that night also.I'll write some more later on.

Danielle and Alexandra photo post

Get paid to blog

I recently joined this new site called PayingPost. It is a blog advertising site that gives you certain topics to write about and they pay you for it. You select the topics that interest you and follow the simple steps and get paid. Each day different topics are posted and you write about whichever ones interest you. This site also has articles now and then about certain topics such as this one: Will bloggers suffer from the Global Economic Crisis?.

Blog advertisment is great for those who want more traffic to their site. It helps promote your site and get more visitors. PayingPost website also has a very catchy layout. It is not boring like most sites. I prefer this site over other blogging sites because they have interesting topics that most people would enjoy. They have a variety of topics to choose from and articles as well. They also have this thing called PayingPostDirect where companys can hire you directly to blog about them. All you do is place this banner on your site and let them find you. I like the idea of that. This way if you do not have time to check their site for open opportunities the company can just contact you directly.




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Lies

I hate when men lie. Don't they realize they make it worse when they lie. So last night I found a few things that Mike searched for. Some of these things were:

Tits
Twat
Vagina
Squirting
BBW
Mature
He also went to nuttinbuttsexy.com which is a porn site that lists all these porn things. He must be jerking off to other females. This bothers me alot. I think it's cheating to jerk off to other naked woman when your married. I may be wrong to others but in my mind I'm right. He is also telling me he doesn't do that. I know he is lying because what guy doesn't do it. He doesn't realize that if he tells me the truth I'd be less mad then I am. Do not get me wrong I would be mad but it wouldn't be as bad as it is when he lies to me.

Men

Before my husband and I ever got married we used to talk about possibly having a threesome with another female. We talI asked him ok but what do you think your role in this would be? I'm a very jealous person so no female is touching my husband. Me and her can go to town on each other and he can touch me but that is it. He tells me he will take whatever he can get. I asked him what that meant. He said whatever I will allow he will do. So basically if I allow him to fuck her he will. I got pissed!! He said I have no right to get mad. How would you have reacted? That is basically telling me he wants to fuck other girls. I'm still mad over this. Am I wrong?

Get paid to share links

I'll have an actual update later on tonight.

Update on Weightloss

Well I gained 4 lbs. I'm really not going to the gym like I should be. I actually went tonight by myself. I walked for 15 minutes on the treadmill on an incline so I burned 153 calories. I also stopped at CVS and bought 6 pack of poland spring water and the slimquick flavor packs for the water. My goal now is to drink more water then soda (thats my weakness) and go to the gym for an hour everynight. I'll see how that goes.

Weight Loss

Well tonight was mt first night at the gym. I weigh 226. I started on the treadmill and walked for 30 minutes. It went up hill and would go fast and slow down. I was sooo out of breathe but I did burn 213 calories. Not bad. I also bought Diet Dr. pepper which tastes like regular soda. Thats my biggest weakness is soda and chocolate. I'll update you more on how this goes.

Update on Alexandra and Danielle

They both had checkups at the doctor today. Danielle is 21.5 lbs and 30 3/4 inches long.Alexandra is 14 lbs and 24 inches long. She also giggled today at herself in the mirror. I of course pulled out my camera and recorded it so here it is...

Questions I Hate Hearing During Deployment

STOP ASKING ME:


"Aren't you afraid that he'll be killed?"

This one ranks in at number one on my "duh" list. Of course we're afraid, you dimwit. We're terrified.The thought constantly lingers at the back of our minds - but thank you so much for reminding me yet again. Maybe next you can go ask someone with cancer if they're scared of dying.



"I don't know how you manage. I don't think I could do it."

Though this is really annoying, I feel bad about mentioning it because I know that it is intended to be a compliment. Still, it's not like all of us military wives have been dreaming since childhood of the day we'd get to be anxious, light-sleepers who carry cell phones with us to the bathroom. We're not made of some mysterious matter that makes us more capable, we got asked to take on a challenging life and we rose to the challenge.



"He's in Iraq? I'm sorry."

This comment, while meant to be helpful, is annoying! My husband is doing exactly what he wants to do. He is making a positive difference in the world, training the Iraqi military, and helping children who dream of growing up in a world free from strife. This is his job, this is our life, and this is how we choose to live it. We choose to live this life because our ideology.



"Do you think he'll get to come home for Christmas/anniversary/birthday/birth of a child/wedding/family reunion, etc?"

Don't you watch the news? No. They don't get to come home for any of these things. No, they often don't get to teleconference as much as people assume we get to for special events. Please don't ask again.



"What are you going to do to keep yourself busy while he's gone?"

For one, try to keep my sanity. Maybe there is a military wife out there who gets bored when her soldier leaves, but I have yet to meet her. For the rest of us, we find ourselves having to fill the shoes of two people--husband and wife. On top of that we have to keep strong in public and ourselves in private. That keeps us plenty busy. We do get lonely, but we don't get bored.



"How much longer does he have until he can get out?"

This one is annoying to many of us whether our guys are deployed or not. Most of our men aren't counting down the days until they "can" get out. The military isn't a slave program they are sold into, it's a choice. Sorry to break it to you but many of them keep signing back up again and again because (gasp!) they love what they do.



"This deployment shouldn't be so bad, now that you're used to it."

I'm sorry, just how do you get used to watching your man go off to war? It's not a little business trip. There are bombs, bullets, and some very bad people who are bent on killing. My man and his guys are the barrier that keeps them from coming here and trying to kill us. Sure, we figure out ways to make life go smoother while the guys are gone. But it never gets easy and the bullets and bombs don't swerve around our guys just because they've been there before. The worry never goes away. It's not exactly conducive to easy sleeping. We learn coping skills. We never get used to it.



"Well, this is what you signed up for when you married him."

This is probably one of the most unthoughtful and brazen things you can say to a military wife. Not only that but it is the most common "insult" military wives come across. Firstly, thank you for showing a lack of common sense and compassion. By no means does a military wife faithfully commit to the lifestyle not expecting her husband to go to war and for his life to be put in extreme jeapordy however, how does that make us more or less prepared to receive his deployment orders? To tell him goodbye for 6, 13, or 15 months, or maybe forever? How does that prepare us for the random and unexpected battles we will face alone while they are away? We as military wives do not ask much from anyone, let alone civilians who have no idea what the life is like, but you can show a little compassion and support for us. We are the ones left behind as our husbands go to war. We are often more alone than you could ever know--show a little compassion and respect when you talk to us.



"My boyfriend had to go to Europe for business once for three weeks. I totally know what you're going through."

This one is similar to the one above. Do not equate your boyfriend's three week with a 7-10 month deployment to a war zone. Aside from the obvious trip length difference, nobody shot at your boyfriend or tried to blow him up with an I.E.D., your boyfriend could call home pretty much any time he wanted to, he flew comfortably on a commercial plane, slept between crisp white sheets and ate well, paying for everything with an expense account. There is no comparison. We do not feel bonded to you in the slightest because of this comment and, if anything, we probably resent you a bit for comparing a combat deployment to a business trip.



"Don't you miss him?"

No, not really... What do you think?! Of course we miss our men. If we didn't, we wouldn't be together!!!

Weightloss

Ok I weight 240..I want to weigh about 135-140. I have 100 lbs to lose..I kinda wanted to lose this before April but I know that's totally impossible. My husband returns from Iraq for 2 weeks leave in April and I wanted to look good for him. Well I bought special k cereal and water. My mom and I are joining the gym tommorow and will go an hour everynight after the girls go to bed. I'm nervous about not being able to do it. I've tried this soo many times before and failed. This time though it is a back issue. Maybe that will hopefully be my motivation..